https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNdHA-PLxg0One of my first clients approached me because she wanted a career change. ✨She is a talented professional with great experience, but felt that she needed a self-confidence booster.We started the session and at some point, I just repeated back what she was saying “so it is impossible to find a job“ , and you think ¨I’m not capable¨. She stopped and said “Did I say that?“. “Yes, you said exactly those words”.Before finishing the session I asked her what was her takeaway. She shared how shocked she was with the way she was talking to herself and that she couldn’t believe the things she just said. 😲Historically coaching was used only in sports but in 1973 Timothy Gallwey, one of the parents of coaching, wrote a book called the Inner Game of Tennis, where he explains that a player’s inner game is as important as the external game.The opponent within your own head is much greater than the one on the other side of the net. 😓This concept was translated from sports into business and is one of the pillars of executive coaching today.My client and I were experiencing exactly that within that session.✔ She learned that you have to overcome the obstacles you create yourself and trust your abilities.✔ I learned to be alert because every time a clients asks “Did I say that?”, I know a process of self-awareness has started. Only by looking after your internal dialogue will you be able to stand up to your inner critic.Like any athlete, you have to win something in your mind before you win it in reality. 👊

These 5 aspects lead to better results in executive coaching, (according to 160 coaching outcome research studies):1️⃣ The coach:Coaches with a good reputation have better results. The coach's credibility and background are crucial for the success of the coaching program.2️⃣ The technique of the coach:There is no evidence of a concrete technique being more effective than other but these approaches work better:✔ coaching vs instruction✔ Positive (solution-focused) vs critical (problem-focused)✔ Friendly vs hostile-submissive techniques3️⃣ The coachee's personality or background:Extroverted clients achieve more.Clients low in self-presentation ability (charm) benefit more from coaching even thought they give lower satisfaction rates.4️⃣ Prepardness and motivation of the coachee:A coachee who is resilient, optimistic and can self-motivate will do better in executive coaching.5️⃣ Coach-client relationship during coaching:The coach-coachee relationship is the best predictor of coaching outcome. Surprisingly, this relationship is the aspect of coaching that shows the greatest effectiveness. It is the one of the few ingredients that both parties can influence together!In regards the coach-client matching and diversity, neither demographical, personality or gender matching seem to have a profound impact on the coaching.This is my own summary of the chapter 2 of the book "What works in Executive coaching" by Erik de Haan.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-brNG_VMIkMy first video and introduction to the coaching world.

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35 years ago, my mother and her partner founded one of the most important audiovisual production companies in Spain. Their proudest moment was in 1991 when they picked up the award for the “Entrepreneur of the Future”. ✨Then the ’92 crisis hit, and they went through difficult times.She had to go back to the corporate world but not for long. With the DNA of an entrepreneur, she launched different businesses on her own.Two years ago, she dropped everything to fully support her partner, now producing videos focused on sailing. They both moved to Cadiz for a new start when the pandemic hit. 😱They could not believe their bad luck but started live video sessions on Youtube, sharing their passion weekly. Their followers grew exponentially, and requests came flooding in, also for instructing groups on sailing trips and charters, a total dream for them.Now, they have expanded their business and are booked until September! She cannot believe how things have turned out for her at the age of 65. 👊Hers is a story of reinvention and the huge opportunity that is social media.If you meet this couple in Cadiz, ask for a ride. You won’t have more fun anywhere!To the most resilient and positive person I know: Happy Mother’s Day! 😍

I'm totally ignoring this guy. 👀The voice of the saboteur.He is not my clients' friend, but he acts like one.He pretends to keep them safe by telling them they can't.But the truth is that he is just scared of change, and doesn't like to take risks.He visits me sometimes too.My learnings are:✔ We need to be able to recognize him first. How does he make us feel?✔ Only by raising our saboteur awareness can we differentiate it from the real red flags.The voice of the saboteur tries to prevent my talented clients from moving forward.But I remind them that we have to learn to live with him.So be compassionate, he is trying to help because he would hate to see you fail.When he is strong and convincing and doesn’t allow you to be your biggest fan, at least make sure you are being kind to yourself.Don’t give him power and answer this question:What advice would you give to a friend in your situation?That level of kindness!How are you dealing with your saboteur?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABaNtC9R-OsLast year all my relationships improved. ✨With my family, friends, colleagues. . . even with our landlord.They were all affected by the fact that I’ve developed (also in my personal life) the number one skill that you need when coaching others, and that is listening.Listening with all your senses and paying full attention to what is being said is an incredible gift. And if you do it with curiosity, then magic happens.✔ When you are truly curious, you want to know more about the story. You ask questions that invite the other person to be curious about their life. The information becomes very real. You start a journey of discovery that might take you to places you’ve never been but that are worth exploring.I invite you to listen more, and listen better, to improve the quality of your conversations and have better relationships.Have a good day! 👊

These are all limiting assumptions:➡️ I will never find a job I love➡️ I am not as intelligent as my boss➡️ I am blocked and can’t move onA limiting assumption is how you think the reality will be limiting you in your life when it happens.But the truth is that there is no scientific evidence that proves that any of that will happen.Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are right. 💥You need to change your perspective by removing limiting assumptions from your thinking so you can think again.We do that by:1️⃣ Active listening2️⃣ Asking a new questionNancy Kline explains the following structure in her book “Time to Think”:“The first part of the question asserts a positive assumption; the second part directs the Thinker’s attention back to their issue or goal”:✅ If you knew you can find a job you love, what steps would you take?✅ If you knew you are as intelligent as your boss, what would you do?✅ If you were not blocked and had power, how would you behave?Are limiting beliefs holding you back?I invite you to identify your own assumptions, question them... and remove them!Have a great day!

Clients usually come to coaching with the intention of changing and improving. You can only change what you know and to know yourself you need to be authentic, be the real you.Coaches need to be authentic so clients can take the risks they need to take. The coaching relationship should be like a solid construction and that can only be built from both parts being authentic. Clients need to feel the integrity and honesty of who we are as coaches.Authenticity shows up in many ways and it has nothing to do with sharing every thought. It does not mean being a “truth machine” and does not excuse any behavior under the “but that’s who I am” cover.Authenticity:✔ allows you to relax and show to others your value✔ means living in congruence with your beliefs and hopes✔ promotes self-love✔ means you like yourself✔ means you have a strong character✔ brings consistencyA great coaching exercise to connect with your reality is figuring out your values and what is most important to you. The more energy you focus in connecting with yourself the more you will be able to bring the best of you into anything you do.Have a great and authentic day!