https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNdHA-PLxg0One of my first clients approached me because she wanted a career change. ✨She is a talented professional with great experience, but felt that she needed a self-confidence booster.We started the session and at some point, I just repeated back what she was saying “so it is impossible to find a job“ , and you think ¨I’m not capable¨. She stopped and said “Did I say that?“. “Yes, you said exactly those words”.Before finishing the session I asked her what was her takeaway. She shared how shocked she was with the way she was talking to herself and that she couldn’t believe the things she just said. 😲Historically coaching was used only in sports but in 1973 Timothy Gallwey, one of the parents of coaching, wrote a book called the Inner Game of Tennis, where he explains that a player’s inner game is as important as the external game.The opponent within your own head is much greater than the one on the other side of the net. 😓This concept was translated from sports into business and is one of the pillars of executive coaching today.My client and I were experiencing exactly that within that session.✔ She learned that you have to overcome the obstacles you create yourself and trust your abilities.✔ I learned to be alert because every time a clients asks “Did I say that?”, I know a process of self-awareness has started. Only by looking after your internal dialogue will you be able to stand up to your inner critic.Like any athlete, you have to win something in your mind before you win it in reality. 👊
https://youtu.be/AYER7capsqQOne of my clients was very clear about what he had to do to reach his important and long-term goals.But the truth is that he was too busy solving immediate and urgent tasks.He was very productive in those areas where he performed well, but that place where he felt confident at some point became his limitation.Our brain is wired to keep us safe and avoid danger for our own survival; so how do we convince ourselves to go to that difficult place where good things happen?I suggested a ¨Moving beyond comfort zones¨ exercise based on the book ¨101 Coaching Strategies and Techniques¨ by Gladeana Mc Mahon consisting of three steps:Step 1️⃣:Identify three of your comfort zones. Those areas where you´d benefit if you made a change.Step 2️⃣:Choose the one that will get you closer to your important goals, and that you are ready to challenge. Take a piece of paper and break it down:✔ What benefits would that bring you?✔ What are your fears?✔ What´s holding you back?Step 3️⃣:Face those fears and expand your comfort zone.✔ List the actions you could do to expand your limitations✔ Detail the support you need and from whom✔ Prioritize each action and specify the dates when you will startOur comfort zone is a great place, but nothing great grows there anymore.Let´s be brave and tell our brain there´s nothing to fear. 👊
You can´t give what you don´t have. ✨If you want to give affection and support to those around you, you need to be well yourself. Forcing yourself to care for others when you are not in a good state is not sustainable.It´s like asking your bank for a loan to give money to others when you don´t have a penny yourself. In the end the system will collapse.The desire to support others with their well-being arises spontaneously when we experience positive emotions ourselves.Taking care of yourself is a generous act of kindness. 🌹Invest in yourself, my friend!
Only when you experience something do you fully understand it. ✨I´ve tried to understand and master mindfulness several times during the last two years. I´ve started two courses and learned the theory, but I never finished them.I´m very aware of how much the practice can help me, but it didn´t click and I felt maybe I´m just not spiritual enough.Then last week an amazing Mindfulness teacher at the Positive Psychology Masters I´m studying explained that the best place to practice is within your own life.Because mindfulness only means that:✔ We pay attention to a specific thing (breathing, body...)✔ With an intention✔ With an attitude of kindness, without judging the experience.If you know the theory you can practice mindfulness anywhere: while walking your dog, cooking . . . or just having a conversation 😍, and you´ll get the same benefits. You don´t need to wear yoga pants and burn incense in a quiet room. You can train your brain to be fully present anywhere!And that´s what I´ve been intensely doing these past two years.In each coaching session:✔ I pay full attention to a specific thing: my clients´ stories✔ With a clear intention: to structure the conversation and create the space to think✔ With an attitude of kindness without judging the experience: always!So my Masters includes a third meditation course, but this time I´m going to nail it. It took me two years of unintentional practice but I finally got it.In which activities are you fully present? Where are you in your meditation journey?(Thank you Cristian Coco, Mindfulness teacher at MAPPA UJI).
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