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The trap

When I had my first child I was a young woman who wanted everything: a great career and a big family.I worked long hours, had my baby in kindergarden during the day and a lady taking care of him in the evenings.When I returned to work after having my second child, my job required travelling every other week.I was 41 when I had my third child and had a long break. I was lucky I could come back to a 9h - 17h job with almost no travelling involved.The trap.The last ten years as a working mom, I've felt I had to choose between professional development or being present for my family. I felt guilty if I chose career and frustrated if I chose family. The culpability for knowing I was not present enough for my kids hurt. The frustration when I chose to take it easier made me resentful and a failure.Guilty or frustrated.How do you keep the balance? Not an easy one. The pandemic has changed the definition of flexibility and I'm hoping that will help working parents to keep the balance between work and family. Now that we know we can work productively remotely, companies need to really embrace inclusion and prioritize employees' needs outside of the work place.If I could go back in time knowing what I know now, I'd advise that young mom to get support from an executive coach. Someone to help her see her value and trust the process, a sounding board to help her navigate her expectations and life values. ✨I'm grateful I don't have to choose now. I feel I´m in the flow and having both, but my kids are still young. Things could change.I also know I will remember:Life always comes first. 👊

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